On this first day of the New Year, I’d like to share a counter-intuitive approach to human change that I find tremendously exciting. Here is its central idea: Our deepest wounds frequently spring from our greatest gifts, and by acknowledging those gifts, we can speed and deepen our own healing.
Self-improvement is often no more than self-criticism in an alluring outfit. Our culture focuses obsessively on the endless allure of improvement, but there’s a much more thrilling area of inquiry: What parts of ourselves are aching for expression, and why do we flee their heat?
Core Gifts are the most tender places inside us. They lie at the very heart of our creativity and our love. If we open to them, they guide us inexorably to what matters most to us. To ignore them is to commit an act of quiet violence against ourselves. This post will help you discover your own core gifts, and will describe their five great hungers.
I’m Ken Page, LCSW, a psychotherapist whose work focuses on the search for intimacy. I’m delighted to begin this blog for single people and those who support them in their growth. It’s a subject very close to my heart.