Core Gifts are the most tender places inside us. They lie at the very heart of our creativity and our love. If we open to them, they guide us inexorably to what matters most to us. To ignore them is to commit an act of quiet violence against ourselves. This post will help you discover your own core gifts, and will describe their five great hungers.
I’m delighted to introduce the Single Person’s Thought Leader Series, in which I will interview some of the most exciting thinkers in psychology, science, spirituality and other fields, each with something vital to say about the search for love. I begin this series with Gay Hendricks, PhD; one of the most renowned teachers in the field of conscious intimacy.
Everyone’s heard this platitude: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This may sound wise, but it misses a great truth; if we want to experience true intimacy, we need to be taught to love ourselves-again and again-by the people around us. No amount of positive self-talk can replicate this experience. It is a gift of intimacy, not of will-power.
We’re taught that the search for love is a numbers game, with odds stacked in favor of the most attractive. Well, we’ve been taught wrong! When we approach dating as an intimacy journey rather than a numbers game, our whole experience changes for the better. What are your own intimacy lessons? Your answer to one question can reveal them: