I’m delighted to introduce the Single Person’s Thought Leader Series, in which I will interview some of the most exciting thinkers in psychology, science, spirituality and other fields, each with something vital to say about the search for love. I begin this series with Gay Hendricks, PhD; one of the most renowned teachers in the field of conscious intimacy.
Everyone’s heard this platitude: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This may sound wise, but it misses a great truth; if we want to experience true intimacy, we need to be taught to love ourselves-again and again-by the people around us. No amount of positive self-talk can replicate this experience. It is a gift of intimacy, not of will-power.