Valentines Day can be a challenging day for single people. But it can become a day of hope–if we resolve to ignore the bankrupt dating advice foisted upon us and finally align our search for love with the tools of real intimacy. The following three suggestions may fly in the face of most everything you’ve learned about dating–but they lead to real love.
I’ve found that four conditions often forecast the advent of real and healthy love. Love’s arrival feels like magic; a gift of luck. Yet we can invite that luck by approaching our dating life differently. If these shifts are happening for you, be encouraged. You’re probably well on the way to finding the kind of love that can last.
Sexual attraction can’t be forced. Most of us have learned that the hard way. What we haven’t been taught is that sexual attractions can be educated. Even if you’re relentlessly attracted to bad-boys, bad girls, or to unavailable people, you can still learn how to cultivate your attraction to partners who are good for you. This post will teach some ways to do this.
A message for all single people: The way we search for love usually determines the kind of love we find. Our culture assails us with romanticized images of love, yet encourages us to play dehumanizing games in order to find it. The three steps I describe will lead you toward real love, but they will also enrich your life, because they are the skills of true intimacy.
I’m honored to have Marianne Williamson share her wise insights about the path to romantic love. Marianne is one of America’s most beloved spiritual teachers, and the New York Times bestselling author of numerous spiritual classics. In this interview, she shares some invaluable–and unexpected–insights about how to find and keep true love.