On this first day of the New Year, I’d like to share a counter-intuitive approach to human change that I find tremendously exciting. Here is its central idea: Our deepest wounds frequently spring from our greatest gifts, and by acknowledging those gifts, we can speed and deepen our own healing.
Chip Conley is the New York Times bestselling author of four books including Emotional Equations. In this interview, he teaches two emotional equations we can use to increase the intimacy in our lives and find meaning within our deepest personal challenges.
Self-improvement is often no more than self-criticism in an alluring outfit. Our culture focuses obsessively on the endless allure of improvement, but there’s a much more thrilling area of inquiry: What parts of ourselves are aching for expression, and why do we flee their heat?
Sexual attraction can’t be forced. Most of us have learned that the hard way. What we haven’t been taught is that sexual attractions can be educated. Even if you’re relentlessly attracted to bad-boys, bad girls, or to unavailable people, you can still learn how to cultivate your attraction to partners who are good for you. This post will teach some ways to do this.
Core Gifts are the most tender places inside us. They lie at the very heart of our creativity and our love. If we open to them, they guide us inexorably to what matters most to us. To ignore them is to commit an act of quiet violence against ourselves. This post will help you discover your own core gifts, and will describe their five great hungers.